Hello and happy Thursday, friends! How is your week going? Do you feel like you’ve been productive, or is your head filled with things you’re trying to find time to accomplish? Either way – this post is for you!
A while back my husband became fascinated with a book. This book clicked with him and ultimately ended up changing his life. The book is called 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos by Dr. Jordan Peterson. I will fully disclaim that I have not read the book in its entirety, however, we did have the opportunity to fly to Dallas last spring to attend the book tour, hear Dr. Peterson speak as well as meet him (I will share that story at the end)!
To be quite honest, I was only going to the event to accompany Will. I knew how excited he was about it and he had read this book multiple times! What I did not know was how much I would walk away with after hearing Dr. Peterson speak. Now, this post is not all about 12 Rules for Life but more so one in particular.
I feel it in my heart to share this specific “rule” if you will, from Dr. Peterson’s book because the vast majority of my followers are women! What is one common trait among almost all women? They take care of others. Whether it be their spouse, their children, their friends or their family members – we all serve others, and we do it well!
Let’s use breakfast as our scenario.
Your in-laws are coming to stay with you for the weekend, and of course, you want them to feel at home. You went to the market and stocked up on fresh produce and items to fill your pantry. Saturday morning, you wake up at 6:30 to start fixing your breakfast spread before everyone slowly wakes up. You scramble some eggs, fry some bacon and pour orange juice into a pretty pitcher. You either set the table or have all of your warm, prepared food in a buffet line for everyone to help themselves. You spend a wonderful morning with your family and enjoy serving them.
Now… I’d like you to think of a regular Monday morning. Do you wake up and fix yourself a nice well-balanced breakfast and take time to enjoy it with your hot cup of coffee, spend some of your mornings having quiet time and maybe doing a devotional? Some of you may respond yes, and that is AMAZING! But others may not remember the last time they prepared breakfast before heading out the door to work!
I will say, that I am SO guilty of breaking this rule. I LOVE serving others, especially my family. But, I can also tend to be a people pleaser. I am not sharing this to brag or say “look what I do”, this is an honest story of me sharing how I can improve on this tactic. Almost every morning, I wake up and fix my husband breakfast. I set my alarm and quietly roll out of bed before he wakes up to scramble him some eggs, make some bacon (I shared the best bacon in this post!), cut up some fruit and sometimes blend up a smoothie. I then bring his warm breakfast prepared nicely on a pretty plate to him in bed. I sit with him while he scarfs down his food (he eats sooo fast haha) and then pick out his outfit while he gets ready. After that, I make his lunch and send him on his way. The first hour and a half of my days are spent serving him and I honestly love doing it. But in that time I don’t make myself breakfast as well or prep my lunch. My husband is my priority but I am equally as important as he is!! And the same could be said if we had children! I know some of you mama’s out there wake your babies up and feed them or get them ready for school and don’t fix yourself anything more than a cup of coffee!!
Some other relatable examples:
- You did a fun bathtime for your baby or a child you are babysitting and hydrate their skin with nice lotion. When is the last time that you took a long warm shower and followed up with some products to soothe or firm your skin?
- You are caring for your sick mother or grandmother and bring some pretty polish to paint her nails. When is the last time you painted your own nails, let alone file them?
There are so many other scenarios and areas in our daily lives where this “rule” can be applied. And I know a lot of you reading this can relate to the scenarios I mentioned above! When we are caring for others, we want to be efficient and more often than not we want them to feel special! Are you efficient in caring for yourself? Recently I have been making a point to (still serve my husband as I do, but also) invest in myself. It is so important as wives, mothers, young professionals, and even grandmothers to take care of ourselves!! If we didn’t, we probably wouldn’t be as attractive to our husbands, children or families! As women, we have so many jobs and balance so many things (within the home and outside the home!). We must remember our own individual importance and give ourselves the attention that we freely give others.
Areas you can invest in yourself:
-Wake up an hour earlier than usual and have quiet time
-Make yourself breakfast and take time to enjoy it
-Take a bubble bath
-Get in a 20 – 30 min workout (being active is SO important!!!)
-Buy a book that looks interesting and read for 3o minutes before bed
-Fix yourself some hot tea and enjoy your favorite show
-Buy organic produce at the grocery store (eating healthy is investing in yourself)
-Buy yourself a new outfit that makes you feel confident
-Do a facemask (stay tuned for a post coming soon on my fav ones!)
-Light a candle and play a jazz station while cooking dinner
-Treat yourself to a smoothie or coffee while grocery shopping
-Exfoliate and moisturize your skin (face and body)
If I am being honest, the largest way that I have invested in myself in the last 6 months is by starting this blog! My husband owns and runs his own digital marketing company, Digital Rocket, and also works a full-time job. He also likes to occasionally go golfing on the weekends and spends time with me, so needless to say he is a busy man! I LOVE running this blog, it brings me so much joy and has given me a place of my own to create and express myself. If you are on the fence about starting something for yourself, whether that be a business, a blog or even going back to school – I wrote an article about “Just Going For It” (which you can click here to see) that would be a great follow up to this read!
As always, thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog! I am so grateful for you! After reading this, do you feel that you sometimes take better care of others than you do of yourself? If you give any of these ideas a try I would love to hear how they work for you, and if you have any other ideas or ways that you are investing in yourself let us know in the comments below!!
If you stuck around to the end of this post to hear the story on how we met Dr. Peterson, here it is!! William got these tickets to hear Jordan speak 3 days before the event, so we flew to Dallas for 32 hours not knowing it might be the most exciting 32 hours of Williams life. When we arrived at the theatre, we had actually gotten an extra ticket so we decided to give it to the ticket booth to bless someone with (maybe that was our good luck?!?). Before we found our seats we decided to get some diet cokes and popcorn. We were standing in line and there was an older couple in front of us. The woman complimented my dress! (William now calls me his lucky charm and makes jokes whenever we are in public and people compliment my outfits haha) Somehow we ended up in conversation with this couple and William and the gentleman were discussing their respect for Dr. Peterson. The couple then told us that they had bought VIP passes to meet JP after the show and proceeded to tell us that would be past their bedtime. They said we were a sweet couple and offered them to us!! We definitely thanked them but they have no idea how happy they made my husband!! It was such a cool experience and Dr. Peterson has since referenced what William told him upon meeting him in several interviews! It was a night we will never forget!
I am really not a fan of this photo but Will made me stick it in here & wouldn’t let me crop myself out!
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Wishing you all the best end to your week!! Now, go invest in yourself!